Aloyma Ravelo writes about this. Her words have resulted in an essential book. It’s author, Cuban, journalist and sexologist, is an inexhaustible source of wisdom that goes beyond these vital subjects.
The book was in first place amongst the most demanded in the country during the summer, which increased the respect for the author who has ten published works and feels privileged with “the great luck of having sold them all, without them gaining dust in the book shops”.
This middle aged woman, never old, is well versed in the art of communication: her conversation enlightens and engrosses, to the point that speaking to her can become almost never ending, as Prensa Latina found out.
All the more when the heart of the conversation revolves around what her sense of life became since her beginnings at the Editorial de la Mujer, nearly two decades ago.
Almost by chance, there she started to deal with the post and understood the need to consider everything related with affections, eroticism and sex.
The most frequent demands of advice are related to these problems. Because of this “I started to specialise, going to courses, workshops and training sessions to face the challenge in the appropriate way” she said.
In 2001 she obtained her Master’s degree in sexual and reproductive health from the Universidad Academia, in Santiago de Chile, but her efforts didn’t stop there: “I’ve studied a lot, and that’s also worth it”, declared the Havana University History graduate.
“Without doubt, I got hooked on the subject, it’s really fascinating. And the work is worth it: people are really thankful for my advice, not only to those who send mail to the digital addresses of the Editorial de la Mujer, but also those who send mail to my own address”, she adds.
“When you realise you can help someone resolve conflict, not because I’m giving them the exact answer- I don’t have a magic wand, I wish- but because I help those people think and find other variants, it fills me with enthusiasm”, she emphasises, to whomever enjoys her proclivity to act as a good Samaritan.
“Sex, love and eroticism” has 10 chapters over 360 pages, and in its author’s words “is mainly a bedside book that tries to give teenagers and youngsters a great number of strategies, tips, advice, and above all, knowledge and training in sexual education”.
The book advances at the teenagers’ tempo: from puberty changes to the great conflicts that are sometimes involved in love, sexual orientation, communication, relationships, first sexual activities and other questions.
It tries, also, to educate on self-care, HIV, and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs); it promotes mental health and prepares for those “sorrowful phases that happen to everyone, such as love sickness, breakups, jealousy, infidelity or long distance relationships”.
“Without doubt, sexual and emotional life in teenage years and early youth is complicated because of lack of experience, and sometimes making the same mistake twice. On many occasions, the confusions and doubts come from lack of reliable information”, explains the university professor.
In her judgement, maybe another reason for the success of “Sex, love and eroticism” among the readers is the fact that it includes 60 letters from teenagers, real, exact, with the anxieties and ups and downs.
“It’s a phase of a lot of learning and because of that, the more prepared they are the better they will do in their love and sexual life”, insists the multi-awarded professional, screenwriter for TV and radio programmes linked to these topics.
Aloyma Ravelo is persistent and already has another title in process: ‘Revealing family secrets: how to speak about sexuality with adolescents’, which is soon to be revealed thanks to editor Jose Marti.
“As you can see, I’m continuing with this broad profile in order for families to appropriate an intimate and useful language to serve as a means of communication with adolescents, undoubtedly in a difficult age”, says this woman loved by crowds that barely saw her face.
Despite her history as lecturer and her incalculable background, this Cuban tries to keep away from the media because she prefers to dedicate her time to counselling those who tell her their innermost conflicts in that complex part of our being that tends to be sexuality.
Her books “Feminine health”, “Doors to the Heart”, “How to Educate Children without too many mistakes”, “40 Questions about Sex”, “Enigmas of Feminine Sexuality”, “Private affairs: adolescence and sexuality”, “Women and Sexualities” and “Let’s Speak Frankly about Love”, all justify her distance from the cameras.
Maybe because words are a very powerful weapon when you know how to manage them well, each of this author’s works will transcend and contribute to the hard task to which we should all address ourselves: the more efficient and delicate training of future generations. (PL)
(Translated by Carina Sala – Email: email@example.com)